Day One. Here’s something to Think About, To Try, To Know and To Ask.

Something to think about…

As you clear up the final few remaining chocolates, mince pies, and wash them down with some Picpoul/Chablis/ Pinot (delete as applicable) before you embark on another dry January, you should know this

Every time you say ‘this is the last one’ and it isn’t, you’re failing to keep a promise to yourself, which over time, makes you feel bad about yourself. This can have several psychological and emotional impacts, including effects on self-esteem and anxiety levels.

So do yourself a favour, wait until your work is done with all the tidying up (someone has to do it), and enjoy the process. And then when you’re ready, be a man or woman of your word, make that promise and stick with it. You’ll feel better for it.

Something to try…

It’s time to have better conversations with yourself. 

Next time your inner critic says something to you that either puts you down or challenges your ability, have a conversation with it. Don’t ignore it or push it away. Be curious. Ask it why it said that to you. Ask it for some evidence as to why it thinks that way. Or maybe give it some evidence as to why it isn’t true. You’ll end up shutting it up.

You would do this with anyone else, so why not you?

The better the conversations we have with ourselves, the easier it is to get along with you.

Something to know…

Like Siri and Alexa, your brain is always listening to what you are saying. It then looks for clues to validate what it hears and becomes an evidence-based self-fulfilling prophecy.

If you consistently tell yourself something like you’re not good at something, then your brain will start to look for evidence to support this belief, which can influence your actions and, eventually, your reality. 

For example, if you believe you are bad at public speaking, you might unconsciously behave in ways that reinforce this belief, like avoiding speaking opportunities or being overly nervous when you do speak.

So be careful what you say (and think), because you know who’s always listening.

Something to ask yourself…

What’s one thing you already know that if you started doing it, your life would be so much better?

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